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KEEPERS
Some things you
keep. Like good teeth. Warm coats. Bald husbands. They’re good for
you, reliable and practical and so sublime that to throw them away would
make the garbage man a thief. So you hang on, because something old is
sometimes better than something new, and what you know is often better
than a stranger.
These are my thoughts, they make me sound old, old and tame, and dull
at a time when everybody else is racy, risky, and flashing all that’s
new and improved in their lives. New careers, new thight, new lips, and
new cars. The world is dizzy with
trade-ins. I could keep track, but I don’t think I’d want
to.
I grew up in the fifties with practical parents – a mother, God
bless her, who washed aluminum foil after she’s cooked in it, then
re-used it. A father who was happier getting old shoes fixed than buying
new ones. They weren’t poor, my parents, they were just satisfied.
Their marriage was good, their dreams focused. Their best friends lived
barely a wave away.
I can see them now, Dad in trousers and tee-shirt, Mom in a housedress,
lawn mower in his hand, a dishtowel in hers. It was time for fixing things
– a curtain rod, the kitchen radio, screen door, the oven door,
the hem on a dress. Things you keep. It was a way of life and sometimes
it made me crazy. All that fixing, reheating, renewing, I wanted just
once to be wasteful.
Waste meant affluence. Throwing things away meant there’d always
be more. But then my father died, and on that clear Autumn night, in the
chill of the hospital room, I was struck with the pain of learning that
sometimes there isn’t any ‘more.’ Sometimes what you
care about most gets all used up and goes away,
never to return.
So, while you have it, it’s best to love it and care for it and
fix it when it’s broken and heal it when it’s sick. That’s
true for marriage and old cars, children with bad report cards and dogs
with bad hips and ageing parents. You keep them because they’re
worth it, because you’re worth it.
Some things you keep. Like a best friend that moved away or a classmate
you grew up with, there are just some things that make life important…people
you know are special…Keep them close!
Anon.
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